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Billy Arcement, MEd.
Professional Speaker

Walking The Talk

By Billy Arcement, M.Ed.

Without doubt, the single most important responsibility with which a human being is charged is parenthood. No position in life is a close second when measured on the scale of global significance. Parenthood, by any measure, is the most serious undertaking of humanity. Unfortunately, many don’t understand the ramification of their avoidance of these responsibilities.

Each year there are thousands of illegitimate births to couples that have no commitment to themselves or to the newborn they bring into the world. The irresponsibility of this act is shameful. Men father children like animals. They experience the “fun” of the conception then walk away looking for the next conquest—viewing procreation as a manly measure done in great numbers with a variety of women. And unfortunately, too many women accept this behavior. There is also the lack of responsibility often displayed by married couples. They bring children into the world and only worry about their own selfish satisfaction. By denying their offspring love and commitment they practice the most maligned form of irresponsibility.

How have we reached this stage of irresponsibility? There is no simple answer and I won’t pretend to have a master plan. But here are some thoughts that perhaps, coupled with reader intellect, might result in some positive change.

First, those couples that have children must walk the talk. They must be shining examples of commitment. They must make providing opportunity for maximum development of their children the top priority in their life. There children must receive an adequate education in a learning environment that extends to the home. If a parent values education, and their every action supports this idea, children will follow the example.

Parents must establish standards and hold both themselves and their children to their maintenance. Values that support honesty, integrity, love and tolerance for other people, a commitment to excellence, a respect for God, themselves and members of the family are significantly important.

Parents must overcome the idea that they cannot discipline their children because that would break the “friendship” between them. Certainly I’m not advocating abuse. But, parents should understand that their children want to know the boundaries governing their behavior. Yes, they may initially resist but I promise once they fully understand why you have these boundaries in place, straying will be extremely rare if it ever occurs. Don’t we, as adults, want to know the boundaries under which our work is to be conducted? It’s no different with children.

One last point. Never miss an opportunity to hug your children and tell them how much they mean to you. It matters not how old or what sex. A man hugging his grown son is not a shameful act. I love you are the three most important words you can whisper in the ear of your child.

How about adding your own list of ideas? Parenting is a tough job with many demands. We all need help. But, walking the talk you preach is the best way to see that the job is done right.

Billy Arcement is a highly respected and recognized expert on personal and organizational success techniques. His messages are timely, inspirational, humorous, and filled with refreshing warmth and sincerity audiences have come to appreciate. Always the teacher, Billy has dedicated his life to helping others reach their potential. He knows how to instill a sense of action and purpose.

He is the author of Searching for Success as well as numerous nationally published articles. To get his free electronic newsletter, News from the Swamp, call 888-376-7374, email your request to barcement@eatel.net or visit our web site at www.searchingforsuccess.com.

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